If there is one thing that most people can't stand, one thing that almost always gets an intense, emotional response, it's rejection. We can't stand rejection. It hurts us. It angers us. And it can make us incredibly insecure.
Rejection in Dating
Here’s Why You Should Celebrate Every Rejection In Dating
We've all been rejected at one point or another — whether it be from a new love interest, a job you applied to , or a group of friends. Whichever kind of rejection you're facing, the fact of the matter is that rejection hurts — and when you put it out all on the line only to get a heartbreaking "no," it's enough to make anyone want to stop trying to put themselves out there — for anything. When you let rejection hold you back like this, though, it can wreak havoc on all aspects of your personal life. In fact, according to Leslie Becker-Phelps, Ph. Fortunately, though, there are ways you can deal with rejection that can help you come out of it stronger. Getting rejected doesn't have to be the end-all be-all, and the experience can actually help you in the long run to become more resilient in your life.
Rejection Isn’t What Most Guys Think it is…
One of my very first experience with it here in Vietnam was with a girl that worked at Phuc Long, a famous milk tea chain with tonnes of stores all over Vietnam. After all, she had asked me out right in front of all her coworkers and me rejecting her would have made her lose a lot of face, not to mention making the situation really awkward. The girl that was super clingy and needy and was the one to invite me out for a date decided to flake on me. We would have a great date and then the girl would reach out to me again either that evening or days later thanking me for the date and hoping that I would ask them out again. Some of them would make one last-ditch effort to throw hints at me to ask them out again while others would just unfriend me after a few weeks.
Let me start by saying that I have no problem with online dating, chatting, swiping, liking, or any variation thereof. Still, there are times I think we can give our dating apps a little more credit than they deserve. Is the fact that we no longer have to face people in person really something we want to be handing out props for? And yet, this same survey indicates that one-third of all online daters have not yet met up in real life with someone they initially found on an online dating site. This number includes online dating, so I can only imagine what the percentage for mobile apps alone might be.