But the idea of armchair diagnosis felt so trendy that I immediately dropped it and adopted smaller excuses to explain his damning behavior. He was finding himself. He was a free spirit. He was depressed. And perhaps my favorite of all — I could fix him.
Lack of empathy, guilt, remorse or shame
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What I am, however, is a person who has been in two relationships with sociopaths—one two years long and the second, thankfully, much, much shorter. If I can help at all, I want to make sure that other people do not go through the pain and devastation that I did. And if they have already done so, I hope they will come out the other side with me, knowing that they were not alone and that they have now truly stepped into the light to be rid of these people. We meet someone and you just know. Everything seems to make sense. Sociopaths like to take up your world, and they can do this by committing really quickly.
They can appear to be the guy next door. So what is a sociopath exactly? Characteristics include a persistent disregard for right and wrong, a tendency to lie and manipulate others, a lack of empathy and remorse, emotional volatility, an inflated ego, and engaging in impulsive and irresponsible behavior.
Now, imagine dating someone whose brain is wired to see people as chess pieces and life as a game. After all, sociopaths can seem exciting, come off as deliciously deviant, and make great co-conspirators example: that girl with the dragon tattoo. Plus, master manipulators are good at hiding their tracks. A female sociopath is more likely to keep directing the conversation back to a new acquaintance as much as possible.